The only thing more exciting than your wedding day is your proposal! Some of us have crazy stories, always memorable. Asking someone to marry you is a big deal and you want to do it right. But where should you go for advice and how should you plan it? You don’t have to be a geek to venture on a website dedicated to the art of proposal. “How He Asked” was founded in 2011 by Stacy Tasman the proposal “guru” and it’s been viral ever since.
Josette: How did the idea of a blog dedicated to proposal came to life?
Stacy: A friend of mine got engaged and I was asked to be in on the proposal surprise! The entire thing gave me the chills – from when my friend’s boyfriend (now husband) told me he was going to propose, to the moment he asked me to be involved, and then finally all the tears I had as I hugged my newly engaged friend. I realized these stories were too beautiful not to share, and thus, HowHeAsked.com began.
Josette: We are all constantly seeking advice in order to do the right thing. What are some of the best proposal tips you can give?
Stacy: These days proposing is more of an experience than just a question popped. Men are putting a lot of thought into making it a special day (even weekend) and are incorporating friends and family too. I am always a huge fan of overly emotional proposals and suggest men take time to think about the most meaningful parts of their relationship and then roll that into their proposal idea.
Josette: A lot of my clients always say that they don’t remember anything that was said during the proposal. That once he got down on one knee, the excitement was so high that everything was blurred. How important is the proposal speech?
Stacy: That’s so funny you say that. It happened to me too (here’s my proposal). Even though you don’t remember it, it’s what jerks the tears, so I say it’s VERY important. The words do create the moment and I promise you, your soon-to-be-bride will take all the mushy words you’ve got (even if she doesn’t remember them afterwards).
Josette: Documenting one’s life is important, and the role of photographing special moments has been made easier especially with today’s tools. What is the percentage of young couples who are actually hiring professional photographers instead of using their phone cameras?
Stacy: We’re obviously huge fans of documenting the proposal. I can’t give you an exact number, but I would guess 75% of women want the moment captured. It’s just a priceless, one-of-a-kind moment and there’s nothing like a proposal reaction. We do have a vendor guide so men can help find local proposal photographers, by the way!
Josette: What is the role that Instagram has played in those moments?
Stacy: Instagram is a great way to announce your engagement. Everyone loves seeing proposal photos or ring selfies (hence why we have 269,000 instagram followers). One thing: I would recommend telling your close friends and family first, before posting on social media. It’s just the right thing to do because I promise you… a lot of your friends have been waiting for this to happen for you just as much as you have!
Josette: I have seen you in one year go from 30,000 to 250,000 followers. What is next for “How He Asked”?
Stacy: Oh gosh, it sounds crazy when you put it that way! Luckily, we have a very engaged (no pun intended) audience. They are so lovely and create a very uplifting community. Reading all the supportive, happy comments is one of the best parts of my day. As for what’s next, well, we’re going to continue sharing proposal stories on HowHeAsked.com. We are also creating some tools for men to plan their proposal better. Since we have thousands of real stories, we have tons of men looking for ideas and inspiration.
I have enjoyed meeting Stacy through emails and phone calls. I think she has found a “niche” that is very special, just like us. I can’t tell you how rewarding it is to work with young couples making their dream engagement ring. How nice it is when they come back and tell you all about their engagement, the proposal. They come back before the wedding and tell you all about it. We are really lucky to be part of such a milestone in somebody’s life. Thank you Stacy for being part of the blog.